Is your fetish or kink not being properly tended to? Perhaps the people you’re dating are missing that “sexuelle je ne sais quois”. Well, in this age of technology you need look no further than the screen of your phone to meet your perfect masochistic match. With this roundup of the best fetish dating sites and kinky dating apps, you may just find your perfect provocative partner in crime…
As society deems kinks and fetishes abnormal and deviant, these online spaces are essential for finding open-minded and like-minded people, to share your interest in an alternative lifestyle, say, feet, BDSM, or even cuddling! Yes, vanilla relationships and sex is considered a kink too! Just pop in your preferences and start swiping away.
So, don’t worry if you are new to the scene – maybe you didn’t even know there was a scene – these are safely regulated and consensual platforms. Just a little kink-curious? Try dip your toe into the fountain of the fetish dating world, open to experts and novices alike.
Fetish.com: Kink-Positive BDSM Community for Fetish Dating
Fetish.com is a friendly fetish dating website that bridges the gap between the online social networking kink community and online kink dating. Here you can unleash your inner hedonist without stepping too far outside of your comfort zone. There is something here for everyone – including a forum, magazine, and local kinky events.
Perks: Get the best of both worlds with a “Quick Kink” swipe feature, as well as the freedom to roam other naughty members. This fetish dating website invites the kink-curious and fetish lovers to mingle and meet online or at your local munches (a casual social gathering for those involved or interested in BDSM).
Limits: As with most dating sites you are limited in terms of chat without a membership however, the free version is great to dip your toe in the world of kink.
Cost: Test the site out for free first, but for the full community experience you might want to indulge. Premium comes to €35.90 and VIP €59.90 for a 6-month membership!
Just a Tip: Take part in the fetish outfit challenges…you may receive more than you bargained for. With VIP you can beam yourself to the top of other people’s searches too!
Fantasy: Swingers, Poly, Open Minded and Monogamish Sex-Positive Dating By Fantasies
While this app is maybe less on the kink end of the spectrum, Fantasy’s sex-positive angle focusing on fulfilling your wide range of fantasies provides a breath of fresh air. Mostly drawing in couples looking for a third member and polyamorous people. The unique selling point is that instead of the standard swipe and move on, you can swipe back and forth – just in case you missed that special someone.
Perks: This app is much more user-friendly than most of the others and you are warmly welcomed with a message from Andrew the founder. It’s aesthetically brighter, less BDSM inclined – but you can totally pop those into either you public or private fantasies section too!
One great perk is your private fantasies only unlock once you’ve matched – keeping members on their toes at all times.
Limits: Unfortunately you cannot filter by location so while you can see people around the world it is new to the UK, so there aren’t many local users if you are based here. Seem’s pretty great for US folks though.
Cost: Free
Just a Tip: On the “Stories” feature you can send out an announcement to meet kinky people in your local area!
Fet App: Lifestyle BDSM Community
With a dark red and black theme, Fet App appears to be designed for the kinksters who know exactly what they want. You can curate an in-depth profile, what your “role” is, and what you’re looking for. This app does have a swipe feature and there are a few filter functions that work well to show you either “last online”, “nearby” and “newest” – helping to keep your feed fresh!
Perks: The unique feed where you write “what’s on your kinky mind” – similar to a Facebook status means other kinksters can find you and get in touch. The group chat feature also allows you to find kinky people based on location, fetish, LGBTQ+, and even vanilla.
Pitfalls: Unfortunately this app can be quite difficult to navigate and there is a limit to joining multiple group chats. Even if you filter your swipe feed to “nearby” you may receive messages from people all over the world and though they have a no scamming policy, their verification process can include scammers.
Cost: Free
Just a Tip: Join a group that you’re interested in to meet kinky people.
Fetlife.com: the Social Network for the BDSM, Fetish & Kinky Community
This red and black themed dating website is considered the Facebook for the fetish community. Fetlife.com is mostly a social networking platform where you can mingle with over 8 million other kinksters. This dark site has been the cornerstone of the internet for “kinksters like you and me” for 10 years. Though it’s not technically emphasised as a dating site, you can explore the site’s (definitely NSFW) feeds, groups, events and fetishes to find kinky people.
Perks: Every single kinkster will be on here, just dive into one of the 100,000 groups. Great for finding out about local kinky events.
Limits: There is no photo verification which leaves the site prone to abusers and predators, but then you also can’t search kinksters based on their age, sex or location. As it is quite difficult to navigate and not visually pleasing – very dark alley – keeps sex on the taboo end of the scale. Be warned, once you comment on someone’s feed it can never be removed.
Cost: Free
Just a Tip: Find upcoming events, especially the local munches (kinky meetups that are fully clothed) that take place all over the world and meet kinky people in your area in a safe environment.
Kinkoo: Kinky, Fet BDSM Dating
Kinkoo has a swipe function like Tinder for you to scan other kinksters to your heart’s content. After you undergo a profile verification (to weed out any fake accounts) you can enter how “active you are” in the kink scene and your level of experience. This helps to let others to either match or mentor you as you grow in the community.
Bonus: Though we only gave this kinky dating app a ⅖ star rating, there are a few perks that may suit you with this app. When you sign up you get a number of coins to buy roses for others these you can give to other members you may like to get freaky with. Run out of roses? You can buy more coins.
Limits: Unlike Tinder where only your matches can communicate with you, unfortunately, there is no filter on this app. Therefore anyone who finds your account can message you.
Cost: Free to chat. Pay up to £199.99 for 5000 coins which can buy you 10,000 roses (because maybe you have dendrophilia – a fetish for plants?)
Just a Tip: Turn off your notifications unless you want to be bombarded.
KinkD: Fetish BDSM Dating & Kinky Fet Lifestyle
Relaunched in August 2018, KinkD hosts more than 500k members, apparently removed it’s swiping function! Which may be to the dismay of some, but the move was to provide a more active (less-mindless) experience. Instead there are now “Monthly KinkD stars, which means the most liked are the most found and contacted. Basically a popularity competition.
Perks: Even more strict that Kinkoo, KinkD has a photo ID verification to keep it catfish free. You may also have a private album for interested playmates to request to view.
Limits: The layout is pretty unappealing (though it’s much more “safe for work” than many others). Not a proper filter function which means you are likely to receive messages from people all over the world.
Cost: Free to download, or £50.99 for 6 months. Subscription benefits include sending unlimited messages, setting advanced preferences (we guess that’s where the filtering will come to hand), getting access to your followers list and to see who viewed you.
Just a Tip: Join the KinkD photo contest. The top 3 will get 1-month free premium membership.
It’s safe to say we’ve never had it so good when it comes to meeting like-minded individuals, so take your pick. Will you go for the friendly fun Fetish.com or maybe a take a peek on Fantasy for some polyamorous playmates.
The online world of kink is your oyster (just make sure they’re into sploshing* with shellfish too).
*Sploshing: food fetish
