Suffering From Erectile Dysfunction? Here’s How To Get Help

Many men want to know ‘Why’? Why am I suffering from ED? It’s a question with no simple answer, but we do know some common causes or factors that may influence this condition.

Published Feb 05 2021 6 min read

Guest post by E-Surgery

Erectile dysfunction is a common but disruptive sexual health issue that can become a serious obstacle in our love lives. But with plenty of effective treatments available, there should be no shame in turning to help.

Erectile dysfunction (ED), or impotence, is a condition many men experience. Basically, if you frequently find yourself unable to get or maintain an erection when you’re aroused, you are likely suffering from ED. This sexual health issue is widespread among men over 40, but in recent years it’s becoming increasingly common amongst younger men - a worrying trend indeed.

If you’re currently panicking about your penile prowess, there are a couple things to keep in mind. Firstly, put those unrealistic expectations aside - men are not boner machines! Losing an erection during sex, or struggling to get hard, happens to almost every man at some point. Sometimes fatigue, anxiety, stress or even alcohol can get the better of us. That’s natural, and nothing to be ashamed of or overly concerned about.

But what if it keeps happening? What if these erection problems are really causing trouble in your sex life or your relationship, and aren’t going away? 

If you’re reaching the point of dysfunction, it’s time to get some help. 


What causes erectile dysfunction?

Many men want to know ‘Why’? Why am I suffering from ED? It’s a question with no simple answer, but we do know some common causes or factors that may influence this condition.

Often the possible causes are categorised into two types: Physical and Psychological. But sexual health is complicated, and often the mind and the body overlap. Sometimes ED can be easily traced to a single factor, but other times it’s a combination of them.  

Physical Causes:

  • High blood pressure (hypertension)
  • Hormonal problems (low testosterone)
  • Diabetes
  • Obesity
  • Spinal injuries
  • Medicinal side effects

Psychological Causes:

  • Stress and burn-out
  • Anxiety
  • Depression
  • Low self-esteem and body image issues

As you can see, ED has a lot of possible causes to consider. You might have a confident suspicion, or you might be completely clueless. Either way, the next best step is seeking medical help.


Talk to a professional 

Chatting to a GP about your erectile problems is always a good idea, as they can help to identify any underlying physical or psychological reasons for your condition.

We get it: talking to a doctor about sexual health issues can be a daunting prospect. But trust us, they’ve heard it all. Particularly erectile dysfunction, given how common it is. There is really no need to be embarrassed, as they certainly won’t be.

You can even use a sexual health clinic’s walk-in service, and see a professional without arranging an appointment. Online services such as e-Surgery offer an online Ask-a-Pharmacist service, who can provide you with more information about getting help for Erectile Dysfunction.

During your appointment, you’ll be asked questions about your sex life and general health. They might run some basic checks, such as measuring your blood pressure or a genital examination. Depending on their diagnosis, they’ll recommend various treatments to you. These treatments can be dependent on the cause of ED, but they could also be combined.


What kind of treatments might you be recommended or offered for ED?


If you’re prescribed medication to treat erectile dysfunction, it will likely be in the form of tablets containing the active ingredient Sildenafil or Tadalafil. But how exactly do these things work? 

Well, you’ve almost certainly heard about Viagra, the most famous erection inducing pill. In truth, the active ingredient in Viagra is called Sildenafil Citrate. Sildenafil works by relaxing the blood vessels in the penis, leading to increased blood flow when aroused. In simpler terms, it makes it easier to get hard and stay hard! An alternative tablet, Tadalafil, works in a similar way. 

There are a range of safe and effective ED pills you might be prescribed. Some of them might be brand names, but you can usually get cheaper generics that work in exactly the same way. You can even get Viagra Connect tablets over-the-counter, no prescription required.

Famous tablet treatments also include:

  • Cialis and Cialis Once Daily
  • Levitra or the generic equivalent Vardenafil
  • Spedra, the fastest acting ED pill on the market

The prescription instructions for the pills will vary, as will their potential side effects, so check out the ‘Top 5 ED Pills In The UK’ for a more thorough run down.


Sometimes it really is mind over matter. While physical conditions and disorders can often factor into erectile dysfunction, sometimes young and otherwise healthy men are being troubled by their inability to get hard in the bedroom. The very same people might have no trouble waking up with ‘morning wood’, but struggle when it comes time to perform with their partner. 

Sex should be fun, playful, and stress free. But in this modern world, it’s not always so easy leaving stress at the door - or by the bedside. Sometimes our mental health can really effect our sex lives and relationships, and ED can be just one manifestation of this. 

Therapy can work wonders. If you’re experiencing anxiety and depression, a combination of counselling and CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) can help you to understand patterns of thought and sources of distress that can lead to erectile problems. There are also therapists who specialise in sexual health, and relationship counselling if you’d like to work something through with your partner. 

Lifestyle changes 

Although healthy habits don’t represent a comprehensive treatment plan, they really do help and can be practiced alongside medical treatments. By committing to lifestyle changes that make you feel better physically and emotionally, you’re helping your body perform and boosting your self confidence.

To combat ED from home, try: 

  • Losing weight if you’re overweight.
  • Engaging in frequent moderate aerobic exercise (one exception - don’t overdo cycling).
  • Eating a balanced diet.
  • Cutting down on the alcohol and cigarettes.

Notice a lot of these habits help with cardiovascular health. Healthy circulation is the key to consistent erections! 

Sex toys

If erectile problems have made you associate sex with embarrassment and anxiety, then your approach requires a radical shake up. Sex is about pleasure - giving and receiving. So it’s time to shift that nervous mindset and start caring for your sexual health by getting playful and having fun with sex toys for men.

What better place to start then with the Tenuto, the smart wearable vibrator specifically designed to aid with stronger and longer erections? This vibrator’s universal design allows it to stretch and adapt around the penis, perineum and scrotum to boost blood flow, prolong pleasure and extend your erection. 

The Tenuto vibrator for men isn’t just a source of sensual enhancement during masturbation or sex - it can actually help address common sexual health issues.

Try using your Tenuto to help with:

Erectile Dysfunction: Stimulating the genitals and pelvic floor with vibration has been found to improve erectile response in men, including those with spinal cord injuries.

Premature Ejaculation: Experimenting with start-stop (or ‘edging’) play with a vibrator can help reduce instances of premature ejaculation

Delayed or Inhibited Ejaculation: The pleasure boost of the Tenuto helps to induce ejaculation and orgasm in men who might otherwise struggle to come to climax.

With so many safe and effective treatments for ED available, there’s no need to suffer in silence. Reclaim your sex life today with the Tenuto from MysteryVibe.

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