Slippery Slope: A Guide to Choosing Lube for Anal Play

Unlike our genitals, the booty doesn't come equipped with its own natural lubrication. Check this out to know more! 

Published Jun 29 2023 4 min read

Oh, the slippery slopes of the backdoor adventure! If you're reading this, chances are you're either an eager novice or a seasoned pro, looking for some guidance on choosing the perfect lube for your anal escapades. 

First things first: let's address the elephant in the room. Unlike genitals, the booty doesn't come equipped with its own natural lubrication. So, unless you're keen on experiencing what we like to call 'dry entry despair,' lube is an absolute must for any and all anal play.  

But with so many options on the market, how do you choose the right one for your derriere debut or bootylicious encore? Let's dive in and explore the wonderful world of lubes, shall we? 

1. What kind of anal play are you going for?

So, what's on the menu? Are you indulging in some solo fun with a trusty sex toy, or are you and your partner embarking on a tandem adventure? The type of anal play you're engaging in will help you narrow down your lube options. 

Solo play with sex toys: If you're playing with silicone-based toys, then you'll want to avoid silicone-based lubes, as they can cause damage to your sex toys. Instead, opt for a water or oil-based lube that is safe for use with silicone toys. 

Partner play: If you're engaging in anal play with a partner, you'll want to consider whether you'll be using condoms or not. If you're using condoms, avoid oil-based lubes, as they can break down the latex and cause the condom to fail. In this case, a water or silicone-based lube would be your best bet. 

2. Thinking about the thickness matters for your choice of lube

The viscosity of your chosen lube can make all the difference in your anal play experience. Thicker lubes tend to be more cushioning and longer-lasting, making them ideal for anal play. However, they can also be more difficult to clean up afterward. On the other hand, thinner lubes might not provide as much cushioning, but they can be easier to clean up and can feel more natural. 

Here's a quick breakdown of the three main types of lube and their thickness:  

Water-based: These lubes are the most versatile and easy to clean up, but they can also be the thinnest and may require reapplication more often. Look for a water-based lube specifically formulated for anal play, as these tend to be thicker than standard water-based lubes. 

Silicone-based: Silicone lubes are the thickest and longest-lasting option, making them perfect for anal play. However, they can be more difficult to clean up and, as mentioned earlier, are not compatible with silicone toys. 

Oil-based: Oil-based lubes can provide a good amount of cushioning, but they aren't condom-compatible and can stain fabrics. If you're going the oil-based route, consider using a towel or dedicated play area to minimize mess. 

3. To numb or not, that is the question

Some lubes on the market contain numbing agents like benzocaine or lidocaine, which are designed to reduce discomfort during anal play. While these products can seem tempting, especially for beginners, it's essential to proceed with caution. 

Using a numbing lube can make it difficult to gauge your comfort level during anal play, potentially leading to injury or damage. Pain is our body's way of telling us something might be wrong, and numbing that sensation can prevent us from addressing any issues that may arise.  

If you’re a beginner to anal play, you may want to stay away from numbing agents and instead take your time, communicate with your partner (if applicable), and listen to your body during anal play. Gradually working your way up in size and using plenty of lube can help ensure a comfortable and pleasurable experience.  

The bottom line 

Whether it's solo or partnered play, with sex toys or not, there's a lube out there that will help you unlock the door to your secret garden of pleasure. Take your time, listen to your body, and, most importantly, have fun exploring the thrilling world of anal play. 

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