What is Placiosexuality and why can giving be so pleasurable?

Understanding what placiosexuality is and what it is not can shed light on this unique aspect of human sexuality.

Published Jul 11 2023 3 min read

Sexual identities come in various forms, and one emerging term that has gained attention is "placiosexuality." This identity revolves around the desire to provide sexual pleasure to partners while having no interest in receiving it oneself. Placiosexuality exists on a spectrum, with individuals experiencing it in different ways. Understanding what placiosexuality is and what it is not can shed light on this unique aspect of human sexuality. 

Unveiling the essence of placiosexuality 

Placiosexuality is a subset of asexuality, and it describes individuals who derive sexual and/or psychological gratification from performing sexual acts on their partners. While each person's experience is unique, here are some things to know about placiosexuality. 

1. The pleasure of giving: understanding placiosexuality  

Contrary to the misconception that individuals on the asexual spectrum lack arousal or sexual desire, placiosexuals find their greatest arousal and gratification when their partners enjoy the way they satiate their desires. It's important to recognize that placiosexuality does not equate to a lack of arousal but rather a specific focus on pleasing their partners. 

2. Placiosexuality is centered on the desire to please one’s partner 

Placiosexuality is all about practicing sexual actions on another person without expecting anything in return. Placiosexual individuals prioritize their partners' pleasure and strive to create enjoyable sexual experiences. 

3. Placiosexuals are generally disinterested or even repulsed by the idea of receiving sexual acts 

While some may sporadically desire touch, this desire is not strong or present in many who identify as placiosexual. What unites placiosexuals is their overall preference for giving sexually rather than receiving. 

Dispelling misconceptions: debunking what placiosexuality isn’t  

Several misconceptions about placiosexuality need clarification to better understand this sexual identity. 

1. Being a placiosexual is not synonymous with being a dominant 

Although it is possible to be both placiosexual and a dominant within the BDSM community, these identities differ. Dominants derive gratification from being in a position of control with a consenting submissive, which may involve both giving and receiving sexual acts. Placiosexuality, on the other hand, is solely focused on giving sexual pleasure to a partner without expecting reciprocity. 

2. Being a ‘top’ in a sexual relationship does not necessarily mean being placiosexual 

While most placiosexuals would be considered 'tops' due to their preference for giving, not all 'tops' identify as placiosexual. A 'top' may simply prefer the role of giving in a sexual relationship, while placiosexuality encompasses a deeper desire to give sexually as an identity. 

3. Placiosexuality is not necessarily linked to dysphoria or discomfort with one’s body 

While some placiosexual individuals may experience body or gender dysphoria, this does not define the identity as a whole. Placiosexuality is not due to a discomfort one experience’s in their body, it is a sexual orientation, distinct from dysphoria, trauma, or other factors that may impact an individual's sexual desires. It is essential to differentiate between placiosexuality and the impact of trauma or dysphoria, as therapy and support can help individuals address their specific needs and work towards increased comfort. 


Placiosexuality is an emerging sexual identity within the asexual spectrum that focuses on deriving pleasure from giving sexual acts to partners without seeking reciprocation. By understanding what placiosexuality is and what it is not, we can better appreciate the diverse experiences and preferences of individuals within the realm of human sexuality. The label of placiosexuality provides a framework for self-definition and communication, allowing individuals to articulate their desires and needs to sexual partners. As society continues to broaden its understanding and acceptance of various sexual orientations, it is crucial to respect and support the experiences of those who identify as placiosexual. 

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