Do you want to introduce your foot fetish into the bedroom, or just add some kinky foot foreplay into the mix? Maybe you’re worried your partner might not be into footjobs… but don’t trip over yourself, because a footjob isn’t the only way to incorporate feet into your sex life.
We have come up with 14 foot foreplay ideas, including toe sucking, feet licking, foot domination, foot worship and more, that may tickle your fancy.
Did you know that Podophilia is in fact the most common of the paraphilias (body fetishes). Read here for why feet fetishes are so popular. Even if you don’t have a foot fetish, feet can add a whole new choreography of sensuality for you and your partners.
If you’d like to try out these tips, begin by noticing their feet. Admire them. Or have them admire yours. Aesthetic appreciation is the first step. Add to your repertoire from there.
As Leonardo Da Vinci once said: “The human foot is a masterpiece of engineering and a work of art.”
Make sure you only ever go as far as you and your partner feel comfortable. Consent is essential. If you don’t have a consenting footsie partner, there are many foot fetish nights dedicated to fulfilling this fantasy and plenty of kinky dating apps and fetish dating websites to help you find your pair.
1. Foot Bathe
For those who are already into feet, you may have a preference for unwashed and sweaty feet. However, out of courtesy for your partner, you may want to wash them before you play with them.
You could even begin by asking your partner to wash your feet, or offering to wash your partner’s feet. This is a sensual task in and of itself. Don’t forget to scrub between the toes…
2. Foot Massage
Indulge in a sensual massage that begins with the feet. If they’re feet are too ticklish, make sure you use firm touches. Light touches will only make them squirm (which is great if tickling torture is your intention).
Remember, our feet carry us everywhere. They take all of our weight, and deserve some serious care. A foot massage will have them relaxed and in the mood for more foot filled intimacy in no time.
Rub your hands together to warm them, then warm the feet. Use a medium to firm pressure, beginning with the heel, working your way up to the toes. Roll the toes between your fingers. Reflexology pressure techniques are actually designed to release tension in different parts of the body – the genitals being one of them. Find the reflexology map in our foot fetish piece.
Massage oils and creams create a softer more sensual sensation. Essential oils ylang ylang, rose and jasmine tend to be the most aphrodisiac associated. Mix these into a massage base oil. Peppermint cream is commonly used to soothe and refresh the feet, but choose a lotion that both you and your partner will like.
3. Pedicure
Offer with a pedicure to finish the massage. Focusing solely on the toenails, trim them, file them. Even take a tip out of this 1988 film Bull Durham, and go and paint the toenails too.
Not a big fan of nail art? Treat them to a professional pedicure instead!
4. Foot Worship
Some say the foot is resemblant of the silhouette of a woman’s curvature. Just as you would appreciate your partner’s body, take the time to study this particular part of their body. Get as low and as close to the feet as you can without touching them and praise the shape and the texture, even the smell.
“I actually began by appreciating my own feet first. I massaged them myself to ignite my own sensual desires for when I finally got my partners to worship them.” – anon
5. Foot Domination
This can involve grovelling, submission, humiliation and body walking. Some people with foot fetishes enjoy being walked on as though they were the floor, the carpet, or a piece of rubbish.
Squish their body, and their face (consensually of course). This will have them feeling the pleasure of total masochistic dehumanisation.
6. Stocking & Tights
Wearing lingerie in bed can definitely amp up the sexual mood. Simply wear stockings, tights or socks if you want to shift the attention onto the feet.
A “peel” is also super sexy if you want to build up the anticipation. Burlesque dancers incorporate this move in their dance routines to tantalise their audiences when taking the time to show off each part of their body.
If you are already turned on from that, you can dive straight into number 12: adding to the standard footjob, but with stockings on!
7. Shoe Fetish
Foot jewellery such as toe rings and anklets are a great way to decorate for increased desire, but maybe you or your partner enjoys the hidden foot more than the actual foot itself.
A shoe fetish has been called Retifism after the French novelist Nicolas-Edme Rétif, for his pornographic depictions of feet in the 18th century.
Wearing a good pair of shoes in the bedroom may help to fulfil this fantasy, and for those extra kinky points, a high-heel may tip you over the edge. For your information, a high-heeled shoe fetish is called Altocalciphilia.
Use the heel of the shoe, perhaps a stiletto, to stroke your partner’s erogenous zones, or gently spike into a pair of balls. (Emphasis on “gently” as you don’t want to damage the goods).
8. Foot Bondage
Learning how to tie feet together is considered an art in the Shibari world. Japanese rope bondage beautifully binds the feet together, or apart. Depending on your flexibility, you can even be suspended in mid air with your foot to your shoulder. Check out Anatomie’s Shibari insta-art for inspiration, and maybe attend one of their workshops.
? @sofiamaliceofficial in my ropes (red rope added by the student), trying our a shape the student wanted to achieve based on a photo #shibari #ropeeducation #upsidedown
9. Sensation play
Become the most vulnerable to your partner’s touch. Have them incorporate props such as a feather or hair brush to tickle the soles. A cold metal spoon, which can be heated if you’re also into temperature play, provides either a smooth sensation or a sharper one.
Use a sex toy such as Crescendo to stimulate the nerve endings. The buzzy setting for more a tickly sensation, or a rumbling vibe to relax the muscles. With your new found bondage skills, tie a smart female vibrator to the feet and remote control a variety of vibes from your smartphone.
10. Foot Kissing
Gentle. Light. Pecks. Make their feet feel loved. Build up to softer, longer kisses. With a full on french kiss, get your tongue right in between the toes for a super pleasurable experience.
11 . Footjob
The classic footjob generally involves two feet and a penis – but this can also include a footjob of the clitoris or even breasts. Rub your feet over your partner’s prefered body part. Pinch your partner’s nipples between your toes.
Though the mechanics of a footjob may not come naturally at first, with time and practice it can feel sensational. The fact that it’s not a hand will feel at once surreal and erotic.
12. Toe Sucking
This can be achieved through a whole range of sex positions. A great one for the “Mermaid” position (ironic, we know).
“You would be surprised at how many women love having their feet rubbed or their toes sucked on during sex.” – anon
For people without a penis, a toe sucking can ultimately feel like that blow job they never had.
13. Toe Fingering
Also known as “toeing”, this usually involves the penetration of a toe, or a foot into either a vagina, anus, or any other orifice deemed pleasurable by the recipient.
“I would bring feet into my sexual play almost as a joke to gauge their reaction. The majority of people who initially were a little shocked, disgusted or confused, ended up being totally into it.” – anon
14. Tantric Foot Sex
These feet foreplay ideas can be incorporated to prevent orgasm during edge play. Pleasure and arousal spiral upwards, nerves lighting up in recipients mind sensory overload.
Just as you would without feet, use them to build up to orgasm. Then Refuse. Relax. Build again. Until you deem them ready to climax.
So whether you are a foot fanatic or curious to dip a toe, make sure you love the feet you meet.
