What is A Forced Orgasm And How To Have One

Forced orgasms are a consensual practice that aims to continue arousal and orgasm beyond the first orgasm.

Published Jul 13 2023 3 min read

The realm of sexual pleasure is vast and diverse. Each individual has unique preferences, desires, and boundaries. One such avenue of pleasure is the concept of forced orgasms, a somewhat misleading term that involves consensual and controlled sexual play, pushing the boundaries of pleasure to new heights.  

The term 'forced orgasm' might sound intimidating, but when approached with care, respect, and consent, it can be an exciting and highly pleasurable addition to your sexual repertoire. It's about pushing one's sexual limits, exploring heightened sensations, and experiencing new dimensions of pleasure. Remember, the key here is consent, communication, and safety. 

Understanding forced orgasms  

Forced orgasms often featured in BDSM play (Bondage, Discipline/Dominance, Submission/Sadism, and Masochism), where the submissive or bottom partner is brought to climax repeatedly by the dominant or top partner. It's about pushing the limits of pleasure and exploring the body's ability to experience pleasure beyond the standard orgasm.  

The idea is to stimulate your partner (or yourself) to the point of orgasm, then continue the stimulation through and beyond the climax. This can result in multiple orgasms, intense pleasure, and a deeper sexual connection between partners. 

Tips for forced orgasms 

Now that you're familiar with the concept let's dive into some practical tips for safely and effectively exploring forced orgasms.  

1. Establish consent and communication

Before embarking on any sexual adventure, consent is paramount. Discuss boundaries, desires, and safe words with your partner. A safe word is an agreed-upon word or phrase that signals a need to stop the activity immediately. 

2. Understand the body's response

The key to achieving forced orgasms lies in understanding your or your partner's body and how it responds to stimulation. This requires patience, practice, and a willingness to listen and learn.  

3. Use the right tools 

Sex toys can be instrumental in achieving forced orgasms. Vibrators, mainly wand-style vibrators, are often used due to their powerful, consistent stimulation. Nipple clamps, anal beads, or a well-placed hand can add to the experience.  

4. Experiment with restraints

BDSM often involves an element of control or restraint. If you and your partner are comfortable, experiment with restraints like handcuffs or silk ties. This can add a layer of excitement and anticipation to the experience. 

5. Pacing is key

The goal isn't to rush to climax but slowly and gradually build arousal. This involves varying the speed, pressure, and intensity of stimulation. 

6. Aftercare is essential

After an intense session, provide appropriate aftercare, whether cuddling, gentle words, or simply a warm blanket. This helps the person come down from the intense experience and reinforces the bond between partners. 

The bottom line 

As with any sexual activity, safety should always be a priority. Remember always to respect boundaries and listen to your partner's cues. Stop immediately if your partner uses their safe word. Remember, it's about pleasure, not pain.  

Hydrate well before and after the session, as forced orgasms can be physically demanding. If using sex toys, ensure they are clean and used appropriately to avoid injury or infection. The world of forced orgasms can unlock new levels of pleasure and intimacy.  

However, it's essential to approach it with respect, consent, and understanding. Remember, the goal isn't just orgasm but mutual pleasure and satisfaction.  

Venturing into the domain of forced orgasms can be an exciting journey. With these guidelines, you're equipped with the knowledge and tools to explore, experiment, and master the art of forced orgasms. Happy exploring! 


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