In a romance novel, a partner with a larger-than-average penis automatically satisfies their lover in every possible way. That endowment makes their mouth go dry with excitement the first time they drop their pants, and they can't wait to explore every inch.
In reality, however, some people struggle to handle an above-average penis size when the time comes for intercourse.
Women and people with vulvas are built differently down there. Some people have a longer vaginal canal than others. If the vaginal canal is shorter and their partner is well-endowed, that may mean that the penis hits the cervix during intercourse, which can be extremely uncomfortable. Not only that, but a larger-than-average girth can also make it more difficult to enter the vagina in the first place.
Luckily, a large penis doesn't have to spell disaster for your relationship or your sex life. There are several strategies you can use to improve your comfort level and make sex more comfortable and more exciting for both of you.
1. Focus on foreplay.
Without adequate lubrication it can be difficult to handle full penetration even from a smaller person. If they're well-endowed, it may take more foreplay to relax and the addition of a lubricant to make sex more comfortable. Likewise, if you're into anal play, arousal and relaxation are key for taking in that larger size.
Don't rush through to the big event. Instead, spend some time focusing on foreplay. Explore, play, and touch one another. The more aroused you both are, the more comfortable both partners will be, and the easier it will be to enjoy sex to the fullest.
2. Explore alternative positions.
The perfect position for you and your partner will depend on the two of you: what you find arousing, what's comfortable, and how you fit together best. Spend some time exploring. Traditional missionary sex, especially with the feet up on their shoulders or other positions that may shorten the vaginal canal, can be very uncomfortable. Sex with a partner on top, on the other hand, will allow them to control the rate of penetration and make it easier for them to stop when things start to become uncomfortable. Likewise, while doggy style might lead to deeper penetration, modified doggy style, in which they lie flat on the bed with their legs together, can be more comfortable.
Spooning or side-by-side sex, with both partners facing each other, may be considerably more comfortable than other positions, since it often leads to shallower penetration. Experiment until you find the position that works best for you and your partner. Try putting her in control so that she can discover what's comfortable for her.
3. Try an OHNUT.
OHNUT is a wearable device that helps control penetration. Worn externally, it helps the partner with the large penis feel as though he is getting that full penetration that he wants while also allowing his partner to experience shallower penetration that meets their needs. OHNUT comes with four rings, which can be used together or separately to create the maximum sensation and comfort for both partners.
You may choose to use a single ring for positions that allow for shallower penetration or to use all four rings when you have sex in a position that usually leads to deeper penetration. As with anything new you introduce to the bedroom, it's important to experiment to discover what's right for you.
4. Communicate.
For some partners, communication is the most difficult part of sex. You may know exactly what you want and how you want it, but you may struggle to share it with your partner. Likewise, if your partner is well-endowed, you may get in the habit of suffering through in silence. You might be uncomfortable when you first start having sex or struggle in some positions, but don't want to make them feel guilty or erase pleasure, so you bite your lip and hope for the best, waiting it out instead of suggesting alterations that could make sex more enjoyable for both of you.
Unfortunately, this strategy can cause a lot of problems in your relationship.
When you don't communicate, you can't solve problems together as a team. You might withdraw sexually or not feel as connected to your partner, and your sexual enjoyment may decrease. Instead, talk to one another. If your partner is too well-endowed and is hitting the end of your cervix, or if you feel that they're too well-endowed for some positions, let them know, then talk about solutions together. Foreplay can't solve every challenge associated with a large penis, but it can substantially increase your comfort levels and make it easier for you to take all of them in. Talk about what you want, what you like, and about how your sexual encounter is working. Communication can help smooth the way and make both of you more comfortable, ultimately leading to a better sexual experience for both partners.
5. Make sure you use adequate lubrication.
Lubrication can help smooth the way and make sex more comfortable no matter how large your partner might be. While it can't solve the problem of a partner who hits your cervix with every thrust, it can help lubricate the vagina or the anus, making it easier for them to slip inside. Adequate lubrication, including using a product like Coconut water-based personal lubricant, can make the partner receiving sex much more comfortable. This, in turn, leads to more satisfying sex for both of you.
6. Remember, it's not all about penetrative sex.
While penetrative sex is certainly enjoyable for both partners, it doesn't have to be your primary goal when you get into bed together. In fact, alternative options, including oral sex or manual stimulation, can add a lot of pleasure to your sexual experience in a way that has nothing to do with vaginal or anal penetration. Oral and manual stimulation are both excellent ways to enjoy one another sexually when that additional size just seems too intimidating. You can try:
Mutual masturbation. Masturbation is a great way for each partner to clearly see what the other likes. You may even choose to give your partner a hand before you're done!
Using a vibrator. Both partners can benefit from the vibration that comes from Crescendo, while Tenuto can offer additional stimulation during masturbation and manual stimulation or bring pleasurable vibrations to both partners during intercourse. Poco is a smaller, more discrete option for teasing your partner no matter where you go.
Oral. Lick, tease, and taste your partner. If they are too well-endowed to fit in your mouth, try licking up and down the shaft or using your hand to increase stimulation near the base while you lick and tease the head.
Manual stimulation. Touch your partner with your hands alone, watching to see what brings the most pleasure. Manual stimulation doesn't have to be just about foreplay! Instead, watch to see what brings your partner the most pleasure. Experiment, explore, and learn together what you like most.
7. Prepare your expectations.
Romance novels and pornography often assume that if a man or person with a penis is well-endowed, they will deliver earth-shattering sex, complete with intense orgasms. Unfortunately, that may not always turn out to be the case. Remember that sex with a new partner is often a learning experience for both of you, and prepare your expectations accordingly. Plan to adapt and work together. With time, you'll work your way to those mind-blowing orgasms you were hoping for together.
8. Use a vibrator to help increase stimulation and pleasure.
If you have a well-endowed person in your relationship, a vibrator can help with your sexual experience. Not only can it help get your partner aroused, increasing both lubrication and relaxation, but it can also help deliver additional stimulation to both partners during sex, which can help make the experience more comfortable for both of you.
Tenuto, for example, can deliver increased sensation, preventing the need to thrust harder or deeper in order to get the sensation they're looking for. Meanwhile, Crescendo can deliver powerful vibrations to her or person with a vulva, increasing pleasure during sex. You can use Poco to enhance your sexual play, stimulating easily from any position while you have sex. Experiment with vibration patterns and intensities to discover what works best for both of you. Use a vibrator to tease or to enhance sensation, then increase vibration as one or both of you nears orgasm.
Sex with a well-endowed partner may take some planning, but it doesn't have to be uncomfortable for either of you. If you're struggling with a partner who happens to be larger than usual, or if you have a large penis and want to make sex more comfortable for your partner, MysteryVibe offers several products that can help.
