How can I improve my chance of orgasm? If you’re like me, you ask yourself this question a lot.
There’s nothing quite like the feeling of an intense orgasm (or orgasms if you’re one of the lucky ones!), so it makes sense that we would all love it to happen every time we engage in pleasure.
We’re always banging on about the importance of sensuality and intimacy, especially when it comes to orgasms for women. As you know, 80% of women in heterosexual relationships say they find it hard – or almost impossible – to orgasm through penetrative sex only.
That being so, we wanted to share some tips to improving your chance of orgasm.
Because let’s face it, you can never have too much pleasure.
Orgasm Tip #1: Masturbate
This is really important. We spend every day talking to people about the benefits of masturbation, and why we think everyone, everywhere, should take some time out to understand their bodies and pleasure themselves.
You have more chance of reaching climax the more you know your body.
I know that masturbation can seem a little daunting at first, especially if you’re using a vibrator for the first time.
If you’re going through this process – we wrote a handy guide to masturbating for the first time with a vibrator.
Finding out what turns you on, and which parts of your body need stimulating in order to orgasm is an essential life skill.
So, take some time to spoil yourself.
Orgasm Tip #2: Don’t forget foreplay
This is a mistake lots of us make. The majority of women need a lot of foreplay to orgasm, so skipping it will not help you improve your chances!
We need some time to feel stimulated, to feel wet and to build desire.
Pleasure is not a race, and you should enjoy every moment of it.
Why not try showing your partner how you touch yourself. This way, you can show them what you like and they’ll enjoy watching you at the same time.
Next it’s time to embrace oral sex. The feeling of your partner’s tongue along your labia, and across your clitoris is sensational.
If you’re planning on having penetrative sex, this is sure to heighten your chance of orgasm.
Orgasm Tip #3: Communicate
As we said, you know your body best. You know what feels good, and you need to communicate those desires to your partner.
Don’t be embarrassed to tell them when something feels good, or ask them to try something else if it’s not quite working for you.
Think about it this way; if you don’t tell your partner what you like, how are they supposed to know? We’re not mind readers! Every person’s pleasure is different, so without having that conversation, your chance of experiencing orgasm is very low.
Communication is key. It’s a cliché for a reason.
Orgasm Tip #4: Relax
We’re always worrying about something during sex. How we look, if they’re enjoying it, if we’re going to orgasm, how long it’s going to last….whether or not we turned that electrical appliance off, how much work we have to do….
Can we all just take some time to RELAX. Stress is a huge pleasure killer.
For lots of women, switching off and being in the moment is critical for enabling orgasm.
So stop worrying about the little things. You look great, your partner is in awe of you, you’re doing a great job and you could climax if you just let go.
Orgasm Tip #5: Experiment
The worst thing we can do is make our sex monotonous. We started MysteryVibe to help couples improve their sex lives and add some mystery to the bedroom, and that’s exactly what you need to do.
Experiment with new sensations and positions. This can be a great thing to do together – it will increase the intimacy between you both and in turn, enhance your pleasure.
You could try introducing a vibrator into the bedroom. Playing with vibrations is really fun, and feeling the pulsations against your clitoris is a great way to increase your ability to orgasm.
Orgasm Tip #6: Be healthy
This is often overlooked, but health plays a big part in our sex lives.
Practice good well being. Love yourself, love your body and feel good about you.
Only when you’re happy in your own skin can you fully share it with somebody else.
So do your thing, eat well, do your kegel exercises, take some time to be selfish, be by yourself and ultimately, be happy.
Orgasm Tip #7: Create the right environment
Lastly, it’s all about creating a good ambience.
Turn your bedroom into a boudoir; light some candles, get some cosy sheets, try some aromatherapy, get the temperature just right… believe it or not all of these external things can have a major impact on your ability to feel aroused and experience climax.