Ever feel like orgasms should come with a cheat code?
You’re not the only one. Everyone wants to reach the pinnacle of pleasure. After all, there’s nothing quite like an intense orgasm (or multiple, if you’re one of the lucky ones!), and plenty of women are wondering how to make it happen more often.
For many women, orgasm can feel frustratingly out of reach. Especially in heterosexual relationships, where nearly 80% of women say they struggle to climax from penetration alone.
Orgasm isn’t about luck - it’s about knowing what works for your body and creating the right conditions for pleasure to build towards climax. Here are a few tips that can seriously increase your orgasm odds.
Because let’s be honest: more pleasure, more often, is always a good thing.
1. Masturbate
Practice makes perfect: the more familiar you are with your body, the more you increase your chance of reaching orgasm.
Masturbation is one of the most effective ways to understand your body, your arousal patterns, and what kind of touch, pressure, or rhythm gets you there. Solo pleasure removes the pressure to perform or communicate with another person, so you can focus entirely on your own needs and responses. That kind of self-knowledge is powerful in the bedroom. If you prefer to masturbate with your hands, that’s fine, or you could masturbate with a vibrator like Poco that is designed to bend like human fingers and arouse the G-spot, without getting tired!
But beyond being fun, masturbation is also beneficial for your sexual health. When you’re aroused, blood flow increases to the pelvic region, which helps keep vaginal tissues supple, lubricated, and responsive. That’s especially important for women navigating hormones changes from perimenopause and menopause, when estrogen levels drop and vaginal tissues can become thinner, drier, and less elastic, also known as vaginal atrophy. Regular stimulation with a doctor-recommended vibrator like Crescendo 2 can help maintain vaginal elasticity and natural lubrication.
So yes, masturbation feels good, and it’s good for you.
2. Don't skip foreplay
If you’re skipping foreplay, you’re skipping the part that makes orgasm way more likely. Arousal doesn’t always show up right away. For many women, they experience what’s known as responsive desire, which is where the body gets turned on after stimulation begins, not before. That means foreplay isn’t optional - it’s essential.
Giving yourself (or your partner) time to build arousal through touch, oral sex, teasing, or vibrators helps increase blood flow, lubrication, and sensitivity, all of which make climax more imminent. And if you really want to turn up the intensity? Try edging, bringing yourself close to orgasm, then backing off before the peak. Repeating that build-up can heighten sensation and make the final orgasm feel stronger, deeper, and longer.
Foreplay isn’t just the warm-up - it’s part of the main event.
3. Communicate
Your partner isn’t a mind reader; even if they were, they’d still need directions. The fastest way to increase your chance of orgasm with a partner is to speak up about what feels good, what doesn’t, and what you want more of.
That doesn’t mean giving a performance review midway. It can be as simple as verbal feedback like a moan, showing them what you want, or a quick “right there” in the moment. And outside the bedroom, having honest conversations about what turns you on, what you fantasize about, or what’s been missing can help build trust and make future sex more satisfying. Communication is key. It’s a cliché for a reason.
4. Relax
Easier said than done, right? But tension is one of the biggest blockers when it comes to orgasm. If your mind is racing, your body can’t fully let go, and climax becomes way harder to reach. Stress, anxiety, pressure to perform, or just plain overthinking can all shut arousal down before it even starts.
Orgasms happen when you’re present and relaxed enough to feel sensations mounting. That might mean slowing down, focusing on your breath, or taking a moment to reset. Tools like sex meditation and sensate focus can help bring you back into your body. Sex meditation uses guided mindfulness to quiet mental chatter. Sensate focus encourages you to explore touch without the pressure of orgasm, simply noticing what feels good, moment by moment.
Your brain is your biggest sex organ; it needs to be in sync with your body for orgasm to happen.
5. Experiment
Sometimes the key to better orgasms is simply trying something new. That could mean switching up sex positions, exploring fantasies, or sex games for couples. Variety creates novelty, and novelty is essential for keeping eroticism alive.
Experimentation can be as bold or as subtle as you like. Try mutual masturbation to learn from each other, introduce a couple’s vibrator like Tenuto 2, which arouses both partners at the same time during sex, or finally have sex in the shower. New experiences activate new pleasure pathways, and sometimes shaking things up is exactly what your body needs to get to the finish line.
Your desire deserves curiosity.
6. Prioritize your health
Orgasms start with good health. Your body’s ability to feel pleasure, get aroused, and reach orgasm is directly linked to overall health. That means regular exercise, balanced nutrition, quality sleep, and stress management aren’t just good for your heart; they’re important for your sex life too.
Blood flow, hormone balance, energy levels, and even mood all affect arousal and orgasm. Strengthening your pelvic floor through Kegels or other exercises can also improve sensation and control during sex. And if you're dealing with chronic conditions like pelvic pain, or vaginal dryness, don’t ignore it - talk to a healthcare provider about how to treat them. A healthy lifestyle doesn’t guarantee orgasm, but it gives your body the best possible chance.
7. Create the right environment for arousal
Orgasms don’t happen in a vacuum - they happen when your body and brain feel safe, relaxed, and turned on. If you’re distracted by mess, noise, or mental to-do lists, arousal has a much harder time showing up. Creating the right mood can make all the difference.
That doesn’t mean you need rose petals and candles (unless that’s your thing). It could be dimming the lights, playing your favorite playlist, or as simple as silencing your phone. You can also try audio erotica to help get in the right headspace, letting your mind wander into fantasy before your hands even get involved. Arousal is sensitive to context, and if you’re looking for more ways to get yourself in the mood, the space around you is a great place to start. Make the environment work for you, not against you.
Takeaway
Orgasms aren’t just about technique; they’re about knowing what works for your body and setting the right conditions for arousal to build. Getting familiar with your turn-ons, speaking up during sex, staying healthy, and keeping things interesting can all make climax more likely (and more satisfying).
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