Far too often thinking about masturbation conjures up the image of solo sex, but masturbation doesn’t have to be reserved for alone time. It can be a wonderful way to explore and communicate your wants with your partner as you enjoy a masturbation session together.
They have the pleasure of watching you give yourself some self-love and (if you want) achieve orgasm, which can be a very intimate way to share self-exploration. It can be a great learning tool for both of you as you discover which spots ramp up the pleasure dial and which erogenous zones are not so hot. Mutual masturbation is also a great way to get intimate when penetration or oral sex isn’t on the cards. Consider this your guide to mutual masturbation including masturbation tips, positions, and how to bring it up to your partner.
What is mutual masturbation?
Mutual masturbation is the act of two (or more) people touching themselves in all the right ways simultaneously. With research suggesting that over 95% of men and 89% of women masturbate, chances are you and your significant others enjoy solo sex. So why not take your solo pleasure in a different direction?
You might be left wondering why anyone would engage in mutual masturbation when they could have penetrative sex, but mutual masturbation has a whole host of unique benefits.
Why you should try mutual masturbation
There are plenty of reasons to let your partner watch you masturbate. For starters, you might not always want to have penetrative sex or oral, you might want to explore a different sexual activity and explore your bodies. Teasing your partner as they watch you and showing your partner what you like are also great benefits to mutual masturbation.
Another reason mutual masturbation might be great for you is you don’t have to be in the same room to get intimate which makes mutual masturbation perfect for those in a long-distance relationship. Just prop up your phone on facetime or skype and enjoy the view. Not to mention there are plenty of masturbation facts about the health and pleasure benefits of self-love. A few other reasons that you may want to let your partner watch you masturbate are to:
Change up your routine
Sometimes we have a narrow perception of pleasure and sex - starting with digital penetration and ending in orgasm. But your routine might need some mixing up. Penetration isn’t the be-all and end-all. Let foreplay become coreplay and focus on other forms of intimacy to sexually connect with your partner.
Compromise for when your libidos don’t match up
Libidos ebb and flow and sometimes your sex drive may not perfectly match up. Mutual masturbation is a great way to enjoy sexual release whilst keeping things casual and low maintenance.
Show your partner what feels good
For a visual learner, seeing your partner get off could help you learn new techniques on how to pleasure them. Showing your partner how to pleasure yourself could be a wise decision in the long run, as they have a deeper understanding of what feels good, the way you lightly touch your clit or when to turn the intensity up on your favorite vibrator.
Lower STI risk
Only touching yourself during mutual masturbation means there is a lowered risk of STI transmission because bodily fluids probably won’t be transferred. However, if you are receiving a helping hand remember you can still transmit STIs through sex toys and other means even if you aren’t having penetrative sex.
Improved mood
Sex has numerous health benefits including boosting your feel-good hormones. The rush of endorphins occurs when you reach orgasm and mutual masturbation can do the same!
Easier to orgasm
Orgasms can be slightly harder to achieve when you aren’t doing it yourself. Sharing the moment, whereby you give yourself a powerful orgasm, can be a great way to connect and for you to enjoy yourself. Plus you might want to use this as a starting point for introducing sex toys into your partnered sex life. Your partner gets to see how a sex toy in action enhances your pleasure and potentially joins in by using it on you.
How to talk about mutual masturbation
You might feel apprehensive about bringing up a new erotic activity to your partner but as ever it is important to discuss and engage in an open and honest conversation. Opening lines of communication will help you both achieve a better sex life and discussing your kinks and desires will only bring you closer.
Begin by focusing on the benefits of masturbating in front of each other. Is it a great way to build emotional intimacy? Can it help your long-distance relationship connect sexually? Or how about helping mismatched libidos? Are you into sex-ploring yourselves?
Whatever your motives are, express them to your partner and it may help them understand a little more about what you want.
Mutual masturbation tips
Due to the intimate nature of the activity, it’s not unusual for things to feel awkward during mutual masturbation, whether it’s your first time or your hundredth. Enhance the experience with these helpful tips.
1. Communicate often
It’s almost impossible to over-communicate. Speak openly with your partner about your desires, fantasies, and preferences. Sharing your turn-ons and boundaries will guarantee a more satisfying and enjoyable experience together.
2. Create a sensual environment
Setting the mood is always a good idea especially if you are trying something new. It helps focus your mind and makes you feel sexy in a situation you might usually find yourself feeling a little awkward about.
Create a sensual atmosphere with soft lighting, scented candles, and relaxing music. A comfortable and inviting environment can help you both feel more relaxed and open to intimacy. think about soft furnishings, delicious scents and a sexy playlist to listen to. You might even feel like watching porn or listening to audio erotica together, which can help turn you both on.
If you are masturbating through a computer or phone your environment needs might be different. Think a fully charged laptop/phone, some good lighting, and an unmuffled speaker.
3. Take your time
Mutual masturbation should be a leisurely and enjoyable experience. Don't rush the process; instead, savor every touch and sensation to make the most of your time together, however long it takes.
4. Incorporate variety
Experiment with various techniques, pressures, and rhythms while masturbating. You might discover new ways to pleasure yourself and your partner that you hadn't considered before. If you need some inspiration, check out more positions in MysteryVibe’s playbook.
5. Engage all your senses
Incorporate elements of touch, taste, sight, and sound into your mutual masturbation sessions. Try blindfolding yourself or your partner or use warming lubricants to heighten your sensory experiences.
6. Be patient and understanding
It's important to remember that mutual masturbation is a journey of exploration and discovery. Be patient with yourself and your partner as you learn more about each other's bodies, preferences, and desires.
7. Bring in sex toys
Using vibrators or other sex toys during mutual masturbation can heighten arousal and pleasure for you and your partner. Experiment with various sex toys in different positions to find the ones that work best for both of you.
There are endless varieties of mutual masturbation positions that you and your partner can turn into the main event, sexy foreplay, or a slow tease. However, to get your erotic juices flowing, here are a few positions you can try with our award-winning vibrators.
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