6 Reasons And Solutions For Losing Erections During Sex 

There are many reasons for losing an erection during sex, here are some reasons you may have not considered to be the cause, and some solutions.

Published Jun 27 2023 3 min read

Sexual intercourse is an essential part of a healthy and happy relationship. It’s a way for couples to bond emotionally, physically, and mentally. It is also a way for partners to express their love and affection for each other, and it can also help relieve stress and improve overall well-being. 

However, it can be frustrating and embarrassing if one loses an erection during sex. While it is natural to experience the loss of an erection occasionally, frequent occurrences could indicate an underlying problem. But why do men lose erections during sex? Here are some reasons. 

1. Prostate cancer surgery and therapies 

Approximately 85% of men will experience erectile issues after prostate cancer surgery. Within the first year, 40-50% of men who underwent prostate cancer surgery will return to the pre-treatment function. Meanwhile, in the next two years, only 30 to 60% of them will fully recover and regain the entire pre-treatment function. Even though prostate surgery or prostatectomy often tries to spare nerves to prevent erectile dysfunction, the results will vary from one surgeon to another and one individual to another. Other prostate cancer treatments like brachytherapy or external beam radiation may also contribute to erectile dysfunction. 

2. Prescription Medication 

Certain medications, such as antidepressants, blood pressure medication, and antihistamines, can cause ED. If you suspect your medication is causing ED, talk to your healthcare provider about changing or adjusting the dosage. They may be able to switch you to a different medication or adjust your dosage to alleviate your symptoms. But do not stop taking the medicines without consulting first. 

3. Lifestyle-related issues 

Lifestyle-related issues such as smoking, alcohol consumption, and poor diet can contribute to ED. Smoking narrows blood vessels and reduces blood flow to the penis. Alcohol consumption can affect sexual desire and cause ED. 

A poor diet high in fat and processed foods can cause obesity, which is a leading cause of ED. To overcome ED caused by lifestyle-related issues, one should quit smoking, reduce alcohol consumption, and adopt a healthy diet and exercise routine. 

4. Psychological problems 

Psychological problems such as anxiety, depression, and stress can cause ED. Anxiety about sexual performance can make it challenging to maintain an erection. Depression can affect sexual desire and cause ED. 

Stress can cause the body to release hormones that narrow blood vessels, reducing blood flow to the penis. To overcome ED caused by psychological problems, one should seek counseling or therapy to address underlying mental health issues. 

5. Not being in the mood 

Mood can also affect sexual function. If one is not in the mood for sex, they may struggle to maintain an erection. Stress, anxiety, and depression can also affect mood and sexual desire. To overcome ED caused by mood, one should try to relax and get in the mood for sex. 

Connecting with a partner, engaging in foreplay, and setting the right mood can help maintain an erection. However, the best way to prevent losing erections during sex is to be in the correct headspace before engaging in the activity. 

6. Recreational drugs 

Recreational drugs like cannabis, cocaine, and heroin can also affect sexual function by impacting blood flow, inhibiting hormone production, and affecting the smooth muscles of the penis potentially resulting in erectile dysfunction.  


Losing an erection during sex can be frustrating, but it is a common problem that affects many men. Fortunately, solutions are available to overcome ED caused by physical health conditions, medication and recreational drugs, lifestyle-related issues, psychological problems, and mood. 

If you are experiencing frequent erectile issues, it is essential to consult a healthcare provider to determine the underlying cause and develop an effective treatment plan. Addressing the underlying cause of ED can improve your sexual health and enhance your overall quality of life. 

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