Spicing Up Your Sex Life Beyond Menopause: Safe Sex Positions

Menopause might try to throw a wrench in your sex life, but with a little creativity and a willingness to try new things, you can keep the passion burning bright.

Published Jun 20 2023 5 min read

Gone are the days of whispering about "the change" and settling for a life of hot flashes, night sweats, and lackluster bedroom encounters. Menopause might have made an uninvited entrance, but that doesn't mean your passion for pleasure should make a grand exit.  

It's time to say "meno-please" to spicing up your sex life beyond menopause. After all, sex can be good for your menopause too, as it boosts the blood flow to the vagina, which does wonders in keeping the symptoms at bay.  

Of course, sex for women after menopause can be drastically different—among the many changes, it can be more painful, as the significant drop in estrogen levels can make the vagina less elastic.  

Ladies also need to be more careful, since menopause can also increase your chances of getting urinary tract infections, which is why it's important to find healthier ways to still enjoy some fun time in the bedroom. 

1. Minimize the discomfort in your lower back with elevated missionary

Now, we're all familiar with the good ol' missionary position – it's a classic for a reason. However, as we age, the traditional version of this position might not be as comfortable as it once was. Luckily, there's a simple yet oh-so-effective upgrade: the Elevated Missionary. All you need to do is place a pillow or two under your hips, raising your pelvis and allowing for better alignment with your partner. Say goodbye to lower back pain and hello to some seriously satisfying, sexy times! 

2. Get up and tangled with the cuddly spoon

Who doesn't love a good cuddle session? The Cuddly Spoon position takes the best parts of spooning and adds a delightful dash of intimacy. With your partner behind you, both of you lying on your sides, you can enjoy the closeness of this position while also avoiding excessive strain on your joints. Plus, your partner's hands are free to roam and explore—a win-win situation. 

3. Doggy style with more pillow support

Let's be honest, doggy style is a fan favorite for many of us, but it can be a bit tricky on our backs and knees as we age. Fortunately, there's a simple solution: pillows! By adding some cushioning underneath your knees and upper body, you can still indulge in this delightfully primal position while minimizing any discomfort. Feel free to get creative with your pillow placement—after all, it's all about finding what feels best for you. 

4. Take control of your comfort by sitting on top

For those of us who like to be in control, sitting on top of your partner is a fantastic option. This position allows you to manage the pace, depth, and angle of penetration, ensuring that everything feels just right. Plus, it's a great way to show off your gorgeous post-menopausal bod.

5. Enjoy the pleasure without risks of pain with oral sex

Sometimes, the best things in life are the simplest. Oral sex is a tried-and-true way to experience pleasure without putting any undue stress on your body. Whether you're on the receiving or giving end (or perhaps taking turns—sharing is caring, after all), this position is a fantastic way to prioritize comfort while still enjoying some seriously satisfying sensations. 


Menopause might try to throw a wrench in your sex life, but with a little creativity and a willingness to try new things, you can keep the passion burning bright. So, whether it's elevating your missionary game, cuddling up in the spoon position, or exploring the wonders of oral sex, remember that pleasure knows no age limit—and neither should you!  

Now, go forth and spice up your bedroom antics, and let menopause know that it can't put out the fire in your love life. 

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