This is a blog post for anyone who’s ever felt unsatisfied by mainstream pornography. For women fed up of searching for erotica consisting of more than your average blow job – vaginal penetration – blow job sequence. This is for those longing to see real kisses, intimate touches and real orgasms.
If I asked you to describe an average pornographic scene, what would it involve? I’m guessing it cuts straight to a penis entering a vagina and ends with the infamous ‘money shot’ of a penis ejaculating into a woman’s mouth or over her face.
Depictions of sexuality often portrayed through mainstream pornography lack in narrative, sensuality and pleasure for the majority of women.
Historically, porn has been made for men because that’s the target audience. Porn is a “guy thing” – women wouldn’t like it. But we all know that’s not true. In fact, a recent YouPorn survey found that one in four of its users are women.
Perhaps not so surprising is the fact women look for videos featuring cunnilingus 630% more than men and often prefer watching girl-on-girl erotica due to its focus on female pleasure.
So, we know that more women are watching, and enjoying porn than ever before. However, erotica still remains one of the most controversial industries, one that inspires passionate debates and often segregates people into ‘pro’ and ‘con’ camps.
What it lacks in diversity, mainstream pornography has more than made up for in misogyny and cliches of femininity. That being so, it’s understandable why a lot of women have difficulty finding erotica that actually looks like real life sex and is relatable enough to turn them on.
This is where ‘ethical porn’ comes into play. Porn made for women, by women. Porn that doesn’t prioritize male pleasure. Porn that doesn’t objectify women. Porn that places the performers safety and preference first, and aims to illustrate real sex (and real orgasms!) with a focus on female pleasure.
The women behind this new wave of erotica became tired of criticizing mainstream porn without offering an alternative. So they decided to do something about it. Their erotica speaks about sex, passion, lust and pleasure. They aim to excite your mind and body simultaneously.
Women taking control of their own pleasure makes us happy, which is exactly why we’re celebrating these badass women changing the porn industry for the better.
Anna Richards. FrolicMe.
Anna was tired of finding porn that degraded women, and focused exclusively on male pleasure. She created FrolicMe because for her, it was important that pleasure between the sexes was balanced, and she wanted to educate men and women on the art of great mutually consenting sex.
“[My erotica] can be equally graphic and visually explicit in parts… but has a far more balanced approach with greater focus on female pleasure. It is far more sex positive and is all about raw passion. By focusing on female desire I have found a strong following of single men and naturally couples who are looking for an erotic site they could both enjoy together.”
FrolicMe is great for couples looking to keep their sex fresh – a key component in a healthy relationship and sex life.
Girl On The Net. Audio Porn.
Who said porn had to be visual? Girl On The net has been treating us to deliciously sexy stories for years, and after much anticipation, she’s converted some of her best posts into audio files for better accessibility for everyone, including those who are visually impaired.
If attention to detail is your thing, this is perfect for you.
Erika Lust. XConfessions.
Erika had her eureka moment when she realized that the only people participating in the discourse of pornography were men. Not just men, but narrow minded, chauvinistic men with little sexual intelligence.
Everywhere else the role of women was under debate, so why was the porn industry being left behind?
It was time for porn to change – which is why Erika went from feeling guilty and dirty for watching porn to creating the adult film she wanted to watch. She didn’t want to get women out of porn, she wanted to get them into porn.
“Porn is today’s sex education, and it’s impacting on our gender education… adult content has the power to arouse but also to educate and inspire. Don’t get me wrong the sex can stay dirty, but the values have to be clean”
Erika produces indie erotica that is diverse, ethical and feminist. Her films offer an array of different fantasies with one thing in common: they all have a female protagonist.
