Vibrators aren't just for women. That's been true for years, and there are vibrators built for the penis, the perineum, the prostate, and everything in between to prove it.
However, the advice and vibrator tips for men are quite slim. Most of it stops short of the instructions on the box, and even the most enthusiastic man can end up underwhelmed.
So, here are a few vibrator tips actually worth knowing: where to put it, how long to leave it there, and how to buy one that won't fall apart, so you're not disappointed twice.
1. Buy a quality vibrator, especially for internal use
Not all vibrators are made the same, and the differences are more than a matter of money. Cheap vibrators are usually made from porous materials, which means the surface has microscopic openings that hold onto bacteria no matter how thoroughly you wash them. That's at best unhygienic anywhere on your genitals, but worse for anything going inside you - like a prostate vibrator.
Look for quality, body-safe silicone vibrator. Body-safe means it's non-porous, you can clean it properly, and it doesn't degrade the way cheaper materials do after a few months of use.
2. Start on the frenulum
This isn’t just our advice - in one study on vibration and erectile function, researchers instructed men to place a vibrator on their frenulum. That's the small V of skin on the underside, where the head meets the shaft, and it's one of the most nerve-dense spots on the whole penis.
Spoiler: men in the study reported improved erectile function.
So, it’s a technique worth exploring yourself. Rest a vibrator against your frenulum on a low setting and give it a minute before you decide anything. If nothing much happens in the first ten seconds, that's normal. Some spots take longer to warm up than others.
3. Try ten seconds on, ten seconds off
Fun fact: that's the rhythm researchers use in the study on vibrators and penises, so there's a reason they built it that way. Instead of holding a vibrator on one spot, the on-off intervals possibly help the sensation land the right way instead of leading to overstimulation - which can make it hard to tell where the vibration is landing at all. The pauses keep it sharp instead of letting everything flatten out into one continuous buzz. Try it and see what your body makes of it.
4. Switch patterns before you turn it up
When something isn't landing, the instinct is to crank it. Resist that and instead try a different pattern first. Higher intensity doesn't always mean better, and it can lead to overstimulation. A steady buzz, a pulse, and a wave are three completely different experiences.
And remember your own body shifts sensitivity, too. A pattern that worked last week can feel flat today. Stress, sleep and how long it's been all change what registers.
Give them all an audition. Low setting, every pattern, then decide who gets the part.
5. Vibrate through your boxers first
Or a sheet, or jeans. Direct contact on your penis can be jarring for some, so instead of shocking yourself, try different fabrics that diffuse the vibrations, change their quality, and soften them.
Every fabric does something different, too. Thin cotton boxers feel different from a satin bedsheet or the denim of jeans. A slow drag of vibrations along the seam of a pair of jeans is its own experience entirely.
Use fabrics to draw things out - tease yourself a little and up the anticipation. Start over the thickest layer you've got and work down, one layer at a time, staying on each one longer than you want to. By the time your vibrator touches your skin, that first contact will feel completely different.
6. Hold a bullet vibrator against your scrotum while you stroke
The scrotum gets touched almost as an afterthought, if at all. It's sensitive in a completely different way to the penis, but that doesn't mean it shouldn't get in on the fun. Next time you masturbate, add a bullet vibrator to stimulate your scrotum.
A bullet vibrator is a small vibrator with a round or bullet-shaped head, roughly the size and shape of a lipstick - also called a lipstick vibrator. That shape is what makes it work well for the scrotum. It's small enough to hold in one hand while the other hand strokes your penis, and small enough to stay exactly where you put it without getting in the way.
Rest the vibrator on the underside of your scrotum, or try gently pressing it against the sides. Every man responds differently here, and the spot that does it for you might be somewhere you've never bothered touching.
7. Press a wand vibrator into your perineum
The perineum is the stretch of skin between your scrotum and your anus, and it's one of the most responsive spots on the male body. The reason is that this area indirectly stimulates your prostate or your P-spot, also known as the male G-spot.
A wand vibrator is a vibrator with a long handle and a big round head. Hitachi makes one of the most well-known wand vibrators. They are built for powerful external use. The head is broad enough to cover the whole perineum at once, and the handle means you can reach your perineum without contorting.
Sit or lie back with your knees up and press the head flat against the perineum. Hold it, pulse it, circle it, massage it, and have fun with it.
If a wand is too large, intrusive, or powerful for your perineum, try a bullet vibrator, like Poco, or any regular vibrator like Crescendo 2.
8. Angle a prostate vibrator toward your belly button
If you're looking for prostate stimulation, a prostate vibrator or prostate massager will help you reach that. However, if this is your first time going internally on yourself, it might be a little disorienting since you're feeling around for something you can't see.
Some tips that help: aim the vibrator toward your belly button. Reason being your prostate sits about two inches inside the anus, roughly two knuckles deep, and it's on the front wall of the rectum rather than the back. That's why aiming matters. Point straight in and you're pushing past it. Angle up and forward, toward your belly button, and you're more likely to hit the right spot.
If you want to simplify the search, try a bendable prostate vibrator like Molto that gives you more control of direction. Molto is also a great beginner prostate vibrator for men who aren’t necessarily into larger prostate vibrators that rely on fullness as the sensation to stimulate – it's only one finger wide.
9. Use a flared base or handle for anything internal
Anything going into your anus needs something at the end that stops it going further. A flared base, a loop, or a wide handle. The rectum has no natural stopping point, and things can get lost or stuck inside you. For example, a bullet vibrator is slim and has a smooth, tapered end so not something that should be put in your anus.
This is a safety tip that should not be ignored – it's not worth the trip to the emergency room.
10. Wear a vibrator for a hands-free experience
Most of the tips so far need a spare hand, but a wearable vibrator doesn't. A wearable vibrator is exactly what it sounds like, a vibrator that is worn on your penis and/or scrotum.
This means extra stimulation during masturbation or during sex without either of you having to hold anything in place.
Wearable male vibrators like Tenuto 2 sit at the base of the penis and have four motors: three that stimulate the entire penis and one that vibrates against your perineum. The perineum motor gives you the same indirect prostate stimulation as the wand tip, except without hands and paired with penile stimulation.
The big bonus of Tenuto 2 is that the front three motors stimulate her clitoris during penetration, so she gets the external stimulation that over 80% of women need to orgasm during sex - all from the same vibrator that keeps you harder for longer.
If you prefer something lower profile, vibrating cock rings work similarly without the perineum massage, like Tenuto Mini. Smaller, less to think about, and still positioned to stimulate her clitoris and your penis at the same time.
11. Apply and reapply lubricant, often
Lubricant not only removes the friction of a dry vibrator dragging on your skin, but also changes the quality of vibration and how it feels.
Use water-based lubricant with any silicone vibrator. Silicone lubricant bonds to silicone and breaks the surface down over time, leaving it tacky and porous - which is the hygiene problem all over again. Some men prefer silicone or a thicker oil-based lubricant because it lasts longer and feels slicker, and that's fine on skin, just not against a silicone device.
The trade-off with water-based lubricant is that it dries out quickly. Reapply often, keep the bottle within, and invest in a premium water-based lubricant like Pjur, so it feels slick and smooth rather than sticky.
Use a vibrator during sex – both of you will benefit
In the movies, especially erotic movies, women orgasm every time, usually quickly. In reality, over 80% of women won't orgasm from penetration alone. They may need a little extra stimulation to reach their edge - and that's where vibrators can help.
Wearable vibrators increase blood flow and arousal for both partners, helping you get there together, and vibrators generally are a great way to spice up foreplay and satisfy both your desires. Here's how to use a vibrator during sex to make your partner incredibly satisfied.
