Many men have ongoing worries that their girlfriend or wife's vibrator might be replacing them. She's excited about its arrival. She may even seem more excited about using a vibrator than she is by the opportunity to get in bed with you.
Are you worried that a vibrator is replacing you?
There's good news: your partner's vibrator is unlikely to replace you. In fact, a vibrator can add a number of important benefits to your sexual relationship, enhancing it in unexpected ways.
1. The more often your partner engages in sexual stimulation, the more she will want it.
As a simple point of fact, the more often you have sex, the more often you will likely want sex.
That means that if your partner is using her vibrator more often, chances are, she will want sexual stimulation more often. If you're in a committed, strong relationship, that will likely mean more sex with you, too. Ultimately, that can mean a more satisfying sex life, not one that leaves you feeling as though you're on the outside looking in.
2. Watching your partner masturbate can prove incredibly hot.
Many men find that they really enjoy watching their partners masturbate. Allow your partner to use her vibrator while you watch. You can help by stimulating her breasts or rubbing her thighs, or you can simply sit back and watch while she enjoys herself. Mutual masturbation can prove very satisfying, or you may want to wait until she's finished to touch yourself. Whatever you prefer, you may find that watching her use her vibrator on herself adds an extra element to your sexual relationship.
3. As your partner masturbates, she can get a better idea of what she likes in bed.
Has your partner struggled to reach orgasm with you in the past? Does she often end up unsatisfied after a sex session? Many women do not even know what they enjoy in bed. They may never have taken the opportunity to explore what they really like in bed. Their desires might have changed over the years, but they may never have experimented enough to figure out exactly how.
Your partner's vibrator, on the other hand, can help her develop a better understanding of exactly what she enjoys in bed: not just of what she likes when she masturbates, but how that will translate to sex with you. In turn, you can use what she's learned to better please her when you're in bed together. The more she learns about what she likes, the better you will be able to please her, especially as she shares that information with you.
4. Masturbation can help take some of the pressure off for both of you.
Masturbation and sex don't have to be mutually exclusive. In reality, it can help take some of the pressure off of both of you. Sometimes, you may not be in the mood. Other times, you may be in the mood, but not want to put forth a lot of energy and effort.
Masturbation can make it easier on both of you. Your partner's vibrator is a great way for her to stimulate herself to orgasm without needing additional assistance.
5. Your partner's vibrator can enhance your sexual experience together.
Your partner may be shy about bringing her vibrator to bed at first. What she enjoys when she's on her own, she may be reluctant to share when she's in bed with you, especially if you had a bad reaction to her purchasing the vibrator in the first place.
As you overcome those difficulties, however, you will discover many ways that your partner's vibrator can enhance your sexual experience together. Check out the playcards for Crescendo and Poco for ideas. Consider how you can:
Use your partner's vibrator to stimulate her clitoris while penetrating her from behind. Whether you're enjoying anal sex together or enjoying your partner doggy-style, her vibrator can stimulate her clitoris while you stimulate her in other ways. This, in turn, can make it easier for her to reach orgasm from a position that might not otherwise offer the clitoral stimulation she needs to orgasm.
Use your partner's vibrator to flirt and tease. Crescendo and Poco, for example, offer multiple vibration settings and patterns. Set the vibrations low to slowly increase arousal as you move the vibrator over your partner's body, gradually building arousal. Then turn it up to increase her pleasure and help her reach orgasm. Look at the vibrator as a tool you can use to enhance her sexual experience and improve her pleasure, rather than something that you have to compete with. As you become more comfortable with the vibrator, you'll find that you can use it to bring your partner more pleasure than ever.
Take advantage of Poco's smaller size to take your vibrator on the road. Poco, in particular, offers a wide range of opportunities to tease your partner when you're in public, without anyone else knowing. Go for a walk with Poco tucked into her panties and control her pleasure through the app, withholding orgasm and gently teasing her so that by the time you get home, she's ready to jump into bed with you.
Use the app to control things around the dinner table when you're out on a date, encouraging your partner to luxuriate in dinner before heading home for an incredible dessert together. Let your partner sit with her legs crossed primly while you sit on the couch together, content in the knowledge that no one would have any idea what you're doing but the two of you. It's a great way to build arousal no matter where you are, allowing you to enhance that sensual pleasure once you get home.
6. Your partner's vibrator can help stimulate you, too.
Crescendo, for example, can be laid along your shaft while you move your hand (or your partner's) up and down along it, or your partner can curve it around the base of your shaft while offering oral stimulation. Your partner can also use the vibrator around your anus or perineum, building sexual tension and enhancing your pleasure. You may also notice that, in many positions, you can feel the vibration from Crescendo or Poco while you have sex with your partner and she uses the vibrator on herself. As those sensations vibrate through you, you'll find that it can intensify your orgasm just as much as it does hers.
You may also find that your partner is eager to see how she can use her vibrator to bring you the same kind of pleasure she's experienced for herself. Lie back and let her experiment on you. Those low vibrations can gradually help increase your arousal, while more intense sensations can help bring you all the way to orgasm.
7. A vibrator can help serve as a gateway to other toys or concepts in your sexual relationship.
Introducing a vibrator into your sexual relationship is a great way to get both of you more comfortable talking about sex and trying new things. In fact, by bringing a vibrator into the bedroom and using it together, you'll discover a new level of intimacy and communication. As your partner shares the way she's used her vibrator to pleasure herself and what she'd like to do with it when you're in bed together, you can share some of the things you'd like to try, too: new positions you might like to try or toys you've considered introducing in the past, but feared your partner wouldn't like, for example.
You can start by checking out the playcards that will help you explore different positions with her vibrator, choosing something new to explore each time, or use them as a starting point for other things you'd like to try together.
Her vibrator can also help you introduce new ideas that you've always wanted to try, but never been quite daring enough to suggest. Always wanted to stimulate her beneath the dinner table, but worried that someone would catch on? Poco is a great way to enjoy it. Curious about sex or sexual stimulation in public? Poco is the perfect size to give it a try. As you get more adventurous, you may just find that her vibrator helps enhance your overall sex life and bring both of you more pleasure than ever.
Introducing a vibrator into your sexual relationship doesn't mean that you've been replaced at all. In fact, if you're worried that a vibrator is replacing you, chances are, you just aren't looking at it from the right perspective! Instead of looking at the vibrator as the competition, start to see it as a way to enhance your sexual connection. Experiment with your partner. Open new avenues for communication. Over time, you may just find that your vibrator is one of your favorite additions to your bedroom.
