The beloved handjob gets overlooked far too often. Yes, your partner might be able to do it better themselves but that’s not to say they aren’t receiving a seriously pleasurable time from you having a go. Incorporating handjobs into your sex life is a great way to move away from penetrative and goal orientated sex, and giving an amazing handjob is one way to ensure their eternal gratefulness.
You may know how to give a handjob already but unless your partner’s been openly communicating with you on how to make it great, there’s always room for improvement! Explore these tried and tested handjob techniques to take your handjob from good to great.
Every body is unique and what works for one person might not be as good for another. To achieve the best handjob for your partner, listen to your partner’s body (and guidance) and find out what works best for them. However, at least some of these techniques will hit your partner’s sweet spot.
1. Watch your partner masturbate to learn what they like
Your partner probably knows what they like by now, so learn from the master by watching how they masturbate. Try mutually masturbating which is a great way to give yourself some self-love and provide a learning tool for both of you as you discover which spots ramp up the pleasure dial on your partner.
2. Ask your partner what they like
This might seem like an obvious one, but communication is key. Talk to your partner about what they like and what they don’t. Improve your technique as they tell you what feels good.
3. Set a sensual or sexy mood
Mindset is equally as important as the act itself. Setting the mood for some sensuality can help you get out of your head and be in the moment. Make your bedroom feel sexy, relax, and stimulate your senses. If you usually feel a little awkward about hand action, then maybe start with a sensual massage to ease into the handjob organically.
4. Lube, lube and more lube
The key to all good sex, and a good sex life generally. Lube intensifies each delicious sensation and reduces friction for silky sensations. If lubrication isn’t a part of your sexual routine, make it part of it ASAP. Learn what lubes work for you, whether water-based, oil-based or silicone lube - all have their advantages in sexual enhancement.
5. Spit as an alternate to lube
Using lubrication is important but this doesn’t necessarily need to be lube from a tube or jar. Use your spit and watch them go wild with this power move. You could even gently tease them with a lick or suck to increase the sexual tension and have them squirming for more.
6. Hold their penis with a firm, steady grip
Firmly hold the penis, avoiding a limp wrist so the penis doesn’t flop around but not too tight that you’re strangling the penis, and apply some extra pressure. Another handy tip is to use the palm of your hand against the shaft increasing the pressure points against the penis whilst being fluid with your movement.
7. Use both your hands at the same time
Two hands give you the strength and speed you need to keep yourself going. Wrapping well-lubed hands over the penis increases the touch points and helps you really stroke the penis for 360-degree stimulation. This can also help relieve the stress of using both hands, helping you go for longer and helping give the stimulation they need to reach climax.
8. Try gentle twisting motions
This isn’t the kind of twist you do when trying to open a jar, no sudden movements but gently twisting your hands in a caressing movement can feel excellent to the penis owner.
9. Play with the testicles
Testicles are ridiculously sensitive - if you have ever seen someone get hit in the balls and clutch themselves to the floor you will know this. This isn’t to say the balls are off-limits but you do need to be careful with them, ensuring you and your partner have a discussion beforehand about the best way to enjoy testicle play. Gradually build sensation and back off if your partner looks uncomfortable or has communicated they don’t enjoy testicle play.
Testicle stimulation also has its health benefits promoting ejaculatory production by increasing blood circulation. A gentle touch, squeeze, or stroke with the right amount of pressure can be a rewarding sexual experience and is one factor that can make a good handjob.
10. Find a consistent rhythm
Consistent rhythm is a must for a good handjob, speed up and slow down as you wish but keep it consistent as to not jerk them around too much. This can also help them reach orgasm by building up speed but keeping the same rhythm.
11. Respond to their body language & verbal cues
Read their body language. If they are moaning, then they probably want you to keep going, however, if they are looking less than satisfied then ease off what you are doing.
12. Talk dirty to them
As you are touching your partner, dirty talk to them. This can add to the overall sexual experience but also is a great way to communicate what you are doing, letting them know exactly where you are going to touch and do as a means of understanding what they want.
13. Focus on the penis tip
The head of the penis is full of nerve endings that are very sensitive. When you can see him reaching toward climax, focus your efforts on the tip, but be careful as sensitivity differs in everyone. What an old partner might find amazing could be too much for who you are with now.
14. Find a comfortable position for yourself
This one is all about you, get yourself in a comfortable position as a handjob can take a while. If you aren’t comfortable you might start flailing and chances are your partner gets off on you getting off. If they see you aren’t having a good time it might be difficult for them to enjoy themselves.
15. Make eye contact
Maintaining eye contact can help intensify the sexual connection and heighten the effect. Obviously looking them in the eye with boredom oozing out is not the best way to get them in the mood, but being into it and enjoying their pleasure can add an extra dimension to the handjob.
16. Kiss them while playing with them
Kissing your partner passionately whilst playing with them adds another dimension. Building intensity by engaging more senses and showing them how much you are enjoying giving them a good handjob.
17. Show your enjoyment and enthusiasm
Utilize your body language. Show them just how much you are enjoying this, perhaps try some moaning or dry humping whilst you play with them.
18. Add a vibrator to increase arousal
A vibrating cock ring is a great way to get them hard and feeling all kinds of sensations they aren’t used to. With the male vibrator Tenuto 2, you can give your partner extra penis and perineum stimulation from all angles that seriously increases their arousal. If you want to get kinky, you can even control this vibrator via your phone to find the perfect vibe to match your handjob and ensure their pleasure is enhanced.
If your partner is up for a new adventure, give them a mind-blowing blended orgasm with the ultra-slim prostate vibrator Molto. The combination of dual stimulation from rhythmic stroking and Molto’s powerful prostate massage can only end in an explosive climax they won’t soon forget. If your partner is hesitant about prostate play, Molto is the perfect beginner vibrator since it’s only the width of one finger and bends to fit their body shape.
19. Get your mouth involved with your hands
Feel free to incorporate a little mouth action into the handjob but oral sex doesn’t need to be part of this show to make this foreplay mind-blowing. However, if you feel like it turns this handjob into a blowjob… who knows where it will lead.
20. Edge their orgasm
Edging and orgasm denial are the acts of allowing someone to experience a high level of sexual arousal and pleasure for a long time without allowing orgasm. Mix things up by adding this kinky sex act into your hand job repertoire, bring them to the edge of climax, and at the last moment stop. Wait a few seconds and bring them back again. This is sexually frustrating for them but can result in an explosive orgasm when you eventually push them over the edge.
21. Explore other erogenous zones
There are plenty of hot spots your partner might enjoy being stimulated whilst you are giving them a hand job. Try stroking the inside of your partner’s thighs or massaging the perineum, whether you use your fingers or use Molto to stimulate their prostate externally. Instead of choosing one erogenous zone, arouse multiple pleasure points with the bendable vibrator Crescendo 2. Hold Crescendo 2 against the length of your partner’s penis and watch them writhe in pleasure from 6 powerful end-to-end motors throughout its soft body. Bend Crescendo 2 and move it up and down to alternate between stimulating their perineum and the underside of their penis. And its slim body, only two fingers width thick, makes it perfect for anal exploration too. Remember that everyone has different likes and dislikes, don’t try to dive into the perineum without some discussion beforehand.
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