So, you are interested in rimming? Whether you call it rimming, analingus, rim job, or ass licking - it all means the same thing. It’s a great way to explore anal play and can involve kissing, licking, sucking and other ways of creating delicious sensations and stimulating your partner’s anus.
Many people mistakenly label the rim job as something exclusively for homo-sexual men but rimming can be enjoyed by all gender identities and sexual orientations. These common anal misconceptions are ill-informed and could be limiting your pleasure. So instead try shaking off these taboos and dipping your toe into the world of anal play.
Rimming doesn’t necessarily equate to anal sex and you can incorporate rimming into any part of your sex life. It can be the beginning of anal sex, a way to prepare for anal sex, a way to anal train yourself or just a stand-alone activity to add to your usual foreplay routine.
Are there any risks to rimming?
A lot of people worry about the hygiene implications and as with any anal play, the anus is rife with bacteria so cleanliness and protection are key. You should prepare for rimming as you would prepare for anal sex by cleaning the area with warm water and soap or baby wipes.
The possibility of sexually transmitted infections such as herpes, chlamydia, and more can be caught through rimming. This means it is always important to use barrier protection such as a dental dam which are sheets of latex that can be placed over the anus to create a barrier. This can be great if you’re worried about hygiene and would like to protect yourself from STIs. Or tongue condoms that are sleeves worn over the tongue during oral sex. This could ease your mind if you are worried about any nasties during the rim job.
Why do people enjoy rimming?
The main reason people enjoy rimming is because of the thousands of nerve endings located in the anus, not to mention the outer erogenous zones of the perineum and butt cheeks. This can provide some seriously amazing sensations that you haven’t previously discovered.
If you want to venture further into anal play - rimming can help relax your sphincter which is important for pleasurable play.
Top tips on how to enjoy rimming
1. Talk it out
As mentioned previously people can be reluctant to talk about their interest in rimming, so you need to create an open dialogue when it comes to anal play. That way both partners know what they are getting into and you can talk about preparing for it and whether you want to try it. As with anything, it is vital to gain consent before trying out rimming.
2. Test it out
Ok so you can’t lick your own butt hole but you can test out playing with yourself, try massaging the area with your finger to get used to the sensations. Feel the light pressure against your butt hole and discover what turns your body on and what turns it off.
3. Use flavored lube
Normally flavored lube is a big no-no as it can seriously mess with vaginal pH balance but this isn’t your vagina. And flavored lube can make licking, kissing, and sucking interesting for the giver, and take their mind off any nasties they may have been worried about previously.
4. Rimming positions
A modified version of doggie style usually works best for rimming, as this gives you clear access to all those nerve endings you might want to lick and kiss.
- Kneel behind your partner
- Use your hands to guide your partner’s butt to the best angle
- Use your hands to spread your partner’s cheeks
5. No goal is the goal
Tease the entire body, starting slowly and moving your way gradually to the anus. Soft licks, kisses, and blows can help stimulate the erogenous zones and really put your mental and physical state into a pleasure override.
6. Lick away
The giver should use their mouth and tongue to stimulate their partner’s anus, anal sphincter, and perineum. Using long slow licks and experimenting with the curvature of your tongue, many suggest you should treat the anus as you would an ice cream with long flat licks. Just as you would with cunnilingus, read your partner’s body language whilst you’re playing with them to see what they are enjoying, and if they give the go-ahead gently penetrate your partner with your tongue.
These tips should have you well on your way to analingus pleasure that is mind-blowingly good!
