Firstly, understand that there is no right or normal way to experience vibrators. Each person experiences sensation differently. So, don’t be shy or embarrassed if you find your vibrator does more than stimulate your clitoris or G-spot. The same goes for those of you who don’t feel what you were hoping for.
Getting and giving the right amount of pleasure through a vibrator can take time. It also helps if you pick one that is right for you and your partner.
Which leads us to the first step of learning how to use a vibrator.
1. Select Your New Vibrator
To understand how to use a vibrator you have to buy one first. But before merely picking up the most appealing one, do some research. There are numerous types of vibrators with plenty of couples vibrators on the market. Whether it’s a Bluetooth vibrator, vibrating cock ring, G-spot vibrator, magic wands, vibrating butt plugs, rabbit vibrators, or a bullet vibrator.
Vibrators come in all shapes and sizes and are made in a variety of different materials. But whether it’s medical-grade silicone or hard plastic, make sure your skin is comfortable with the material and that the material is body-safe before choosing it.
You’ll also want to consider the functions of each vibrator.
- Does it have multiple speeds?
- Does it have different vibration patterns?
- Does it give off more of a deep rumbling vibration or a light buzzy one?
Note: many people prefer the deeper rumbly vibrations, which come with larger and more powerful vibrators, like Crescendo 2 and the magic wand. Buzzy vibrations come from small vibrators like a bullet or a pocket rocket. Keep in mind that if the motor is placed close to where the vibrator is going to touch the skin, the vibrations will be stronger as they have less distance to travel. And don’t just buy the cheapest battery-operated model you find. Not only will these be made with cheap materials but they can also burn out after a few uses.
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2. Go For It, Alone
Now that you have your new vibrator, it’s time to learn to use the vibrator. This is usually best done alone during masturbation to get a better feel of what works best for you before you use the vibrator with your partner.
With so many types of vibrators out there, it’s important to learn how to use a vibrator with its functions. If it’s a smart vibrator like Crescendo 2 and Tenuto 2, download the app and test out the vibration patterns. Some smart vibrators even let you connect to music and vibe to the beat. With a smart sex toy, your phone is a remote control that can tease you and lead to spine-tingling pleasure. Whatever the case, become familiar with its capabilities before you really get stuck in – otherwise you’ll not be reaping the true benefits of your new toy.
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3. Get In the Mood
It’s important to be in the mood before indulging in sex – with or without using a vibrator. Desire is reactive to the right stimuli, which means you need to stoke the fire before you can get aroused. Don’t rely on the vibrator to arouse you or your partner. It can end up feeling like a foreign object trying to probe you.
Instead focus on getting aroused by first focusing on increasing the intimate connection with your partner, reading erotica, watching porn, fantasizing, touching yourself, reigniting your desires in the relationship of its long-term, or whatever you need to do. You will be more susceptible to pleasurable sensations if you are in the mood for them.
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4. Vibration & Speed
Before going full power, ease yourself into the experience of using a vibrator. Feel the different vibration patterns on your skin. Test out the various speeds and motor strength. Once you are ready to try it out, go slow. You may find that some areas need only a small amount of vibratory stimulation, while others require full speed and pressure to get you off. And be aware – the harder that you hold the vibrator in your hand, the more your hand absorbs the vibrations instead of your pleasure zones.
5. Test Your Comfort Zones
While some people are fine with full contact of the vibrator on the skin through external stimulation, others prefer a much smaller amount of contact. If full contact is painful or too intense, decrease the intensity by putting your underwear or a towel in between the vibrator and your skin. If vibrations to the clitoris feel painful, try holding it near your labia or your inner thigh. You can also hold the vibrator just above the skin giving yourself slight vibratory stimulation.
Vibrators aren’t just suited to clitoral stimulation, internal vibrators can unleash new sensations as you feel the vibrations inside you. A vibrator designed for both clitoral and g-spot stimulation can result in orgasmic results of the blended variety.
6. Find Your Erogenous Zones
Want to get the most out of your vibrator? Try exploring your body inch by inch. Jumping straight to your known erogenous zones can crowd out the possibility of finding pleasure points you never knew you had.
Did you know, for example, that there are nerve endings in your feet that connect to your genitals? Try using your vibrator on your feet and toes during masturbation. This may work for some people, while others may feel nothing at all. It’s definitely worth a try if it means increasing your pleasure though!
If you want to jump to known erogenous zones, stimulating areas like the nipples and anus can increase your sexual pleasure and lust. But be careful – if you’re experimenting with anal play, the vibrator must have a flared base, so the anal muscles don’t pull the vibrator too far in. Also, never switch from the anus back to the vagina after putting a vibrator in there. This can cause some uncomfortable and dangerous infections.
When using a vibrator as a clitoral stimulator, experiment with sliding it in and out of the vagina and use it as a clitoral vibrator with every stroke. Much of the clitoris is actually located internally and extends along the two shifts on either side of the vagina. And if you want to use a sex toy like a G-spot vibrator, experiment with applying pressure to the pelvic floor and the pelvic ceiling.
7. Lube Up
Feeling dry?
Some people have trouble staying wet, which can make sex toy play uncomfortable and even painful. Avoid this by making lubricant your new best friend. Lube is even great for those who can get wet as it makes the toy easier to glide around and can make the experience feel all the juicer. Water-based lubricant is often compatible with all sex toys but do some research first on what type of lubricant you need. Silicone-based lube is not recommended to be used with silicone sex toys.
8. Don’t Give Up
Didn’t get the experience you were hoping for? Be patient and keep trying. It may take you a few tries before you feel comfortable with your new sex toy.
Many factors can affect how you feel about your vibratory experiences, such as hormones and stress. You may feel different each time you try it. For women, consider that there may be a certain time during the month when you tend to feel more aroused. If so, this is a great time to give use a vibrator. Meanwhile, if you’re a man feeling unsure of where to start with male vibrators, read our article on vibrators for men.
