Decades ago, talk of sex toys for women involved covert conversations and whispers because the topic was considered too taboo to speak about openly. Sex toys have become less taboo over time, and in fact, have gained popularity. However, some people still are not comfortable talking about them openly, or at all.
So, we’re here to answer the questions you’ve always wanted to ask about sex toys including:
Yes, it’s perfectly normal to use sex toys for many reasons from clitoral stimulation, to exploring your sexuality, spicing things up in your relationship, and more. Over half of the female population in the United States use vibrators. Using a vibrator, dildo, butt plug, or any other kind of sex toy, is a personal decision. There’s no harm in using sex toys as long as you use them properly, sanitize them regularly, and store them properly.
Using sex toys provides many benefits. Sex toys can act as tools that help teach you about your pleasure and your anatomy, lessons that, unfortunately for many of us, were not covered in traditional sex education (aka female orgasm). It’s important for individuals to have a firm understanding of their sexuality before they can communicate desires and preferences to future partners. Sex toys help bridge the gap – literally, the orgasm gap.
Sex toys are designed to stimulate various erogenous zones. Some vibrators for women provide dual stimulation, so clitoral stimulation and G-spot stimulation at the same time, or one or the other. Vibrators like Crescendo, allow you to discover your pleasure zones, enhance masturbation with heightened G-spot stimulation, and feel amazing from all the hormones released after an orgasm.
Using sex toys with a partner can make the experience more fulfilling and satisfying for both of you. You can use them during foreplay, ignite your kinky explorations with some role-play, savor more intense orgasms, and add novelty to your sex life.
Some people find it hard to tell the difference between vibrators and dildos because they’re both used for masturbation and sometimes look the same. To keep it simple, they only have one difference: vibration. Vibrators vibrate, dildos don’t.
There are different types of vibrators that offer various vaginal stimulation, and the best type is the one that matches your personal preferences. Pleasure is not a one-size-fits-all model.
Vibrators can come with different features and functions. Some vibration settings feature different vibration patterns, vibration modes, and vibration intensities. Some vibration patterns include sonic waves, pulsation patterns, high-frequency patterns, or mimic clitoral suction. Some offer internal stimulation, external stimulation, anal stimulation, G-spot and clitoral stimulation, and blended orgasm. It's dealer's choice, and there are plenty of choices out there.
For instance, if you enjoy penetration and G-spot stimulation, you will most likely enjoy using internal vibrators or dildos. On the other hand, if you prefer clitoral and labia stimulation, you can benefit from using external vibrators or massage wands.
If you like both penetration and clitoral stimulation, it’s best to get a vibrator that provides blended or dual stimulation.
Sex toy technology has come a long way from phallic looking vibrators and dildos. Some sex toys don’t look like sex toys at all! When searching for a vibrator, read the manufacturer’s description of benefits and features for what you desire.
Vibrators are made to enhance pleasure. Everyone’s experience will feel a little different, but the goal is to maximum pleasure. While some sex toys are made with a mix of pain and pleasure in mind (e.g., sex toys for BDSM), using a vibrator shouldn’t hurt, whether for clitoral stimulation or for penetration, (don’t forget to use lubricant). If using a vibrator does hurt, consult your doctor as that might indicate a larger health issue.
One of the most common questions about vibrators is if they are loud enough to be heard by others. Some adult toys offer strong vibrations that can be quite loud while others are made with quiet vibrations. Of course, it can feel awkward to masturbate when you know other people, such as your roommates or family members, might hear you doing it. The answer is it depends on the type of vibrator you purchase.
One of the best ways to choose a quieter vibrator is to know its decibel (dB). Sound is measured in units called decibels (dB). The higher the decibel level, the louder the noise. However, the way we perceive sound isn’t linear. A dB level increase of 10 means that a sound is 10 times more intense, or powerful.
To give you an idea, a 20-30 dB sound is equivalent to the sound of rustling leaves or a whisper. Though, it's challenging to find a vibrator quieter than 50 dB, which is equivalent to the sound of a normal conversation. A 50 dB vibrator is not as quiet as a whisper, but faint enough that you can easily damper the sound by using it under heavy covers, such as a comforter. You can also turn on a fan or play music to mask the noise.
It’s easy to assume that anything that feels extremely good can become addicting, but it’s less likely to happen with a vibrator. Although your body can get used to being stimulated by a vibrator (and even prefer it over your fingers), it’s not possible to become clinically addicted to your vibrator, according to Maureen Whelihan, M.D., an OB-GYN at the Center for Sexual Health and Education. Maureen states that addiction implies abuse or misuse of a specific thing. “Addiction refers to structural changes in the brain that include habituation, increased tolerance and withdrawal, and an intense treatment plan for recovery,” sex therapist Ian Kerner, Ph.D., elaborates.
While you can’t become clinically addicted to a vibrator, you can become dependent on one. However, that just means your brain has created neural pathways that easily recognize that type of stimulation. Dependency doesn’t mean you won’t be able to achieve orgasm without your vibrator, just that your body prefers that stimulation because it’s used to receiving it. There’s a simple fix though - diversify your sexual experiences, with sex toys and people.
No, it won’t. If you are curious about this because you’ve heard the term “dead vagina syndrome” thrown around, professional sexologist Dr. Jill Mc-Devitt says it’s a non-medical, fear-mongering term made up by people who don’t totally understand female masturbation, orgasms, and the vaginal anatomy. The Journal of Sexual Medicine published a study that concluded that vibrators are not found to have negative effects of genitals.
When buying sex toys, consider the type of pleasure you seek, the materials and durability of the products, the sound, the size and aesthetics, special features, and your budget.
Shopping for sex toys is a lot of fun, especially if it’s your first time. If you don’t want to be seen in public buying sex toys, most companies offer online shopping with discreet shipping and packaging, so your secret is safe with you. Of course, as an award-winning company, MysteryVibe is a great place to also buy female sex toys and that includes 2 year warranty and discreet shipping.
You are responsible for your sexual health. To avoid sexually transmitted diseases or infections, we highly discourage sharing your share sex toy with others, except with trusted partners. If you and your partner follow safe sex practices and want to use a toy together, sharing is caring. We recommend using a condom when sharing a sex toy with another person for extra protection. And always wash and sanitize your sex toys after use.
They say communication is key to a solid relationship, and that also rings true in your sex life. Talking to your partner about your desire to use sex toys is the first step. If you have reservations about bringing sex toys up in conversation, try giving your partner a sex toy as a gift and see how they response. This is another way to open the conversation about sex and using sex toys in the bedroom.
It’s also important to reiterate that sex toys aren’t substitutes for each other, but rather are tools that can add elevate your existing sex life and connection.
The best sex toy for couples depends on so many factors such as anatomy, preferences, and comfort level. For two vulva-owners' they might explore different types of vibrators, external and internal, such as G-spot vibrators, bullet vibrators, anal toys, wand vibrators, rabbit vibrators, suction vibrators, and wearable vibrators. Meanwhile, if your partner has a penis, you can also use vibrators on yourself or their penis, or vibrating cock rings. A wearable vibrator like Tenuto is perfect for couples as both you and your partner enjoy stimulation at the same time with the added benefit giving your partner longer-lasting, harder erections.
Every sex toy will have slightly different guidelines on proper care based on its materials and functions. Cleaning your sex toys properly can help prevent any potential infection and disease as well as prolong the shelf-life of your sex toys. You can clean most sex toys using mild soap and water, or a sex toy cleaner. It’s important to beware of scented cleaners as they can cause irritation or disrupt your genital’s pH balance.
Whether for privacy or safety reasons, some of the best ways to store your sex toys include using a lockable plastic container, keeping them in their original packaging, using storage sacks, getting special sex storage boxes, or using bags specially made for sex toys.
It’s completely normal to be curious about sex toys and ask questions, especially now that they’re more available than ever before. If you’re not comfortable talking about it with friends or loved ones, you can speak with a healthcare provider or a sex therapist, and they’ll be more than willing to walk you through all the benefits involved in using them, physically, emotionally, mentally and sexually.
If you’re ready to explore and learn more about yourself in a sexier way, check out our range of sex toys and find out which ones are suitable for you.